some gave some...Some Gave ALL..THANK YOU

SOME GAVE SOME ,,Some GAVE ALL...

So this week at work I saw something that made my heart hurt,made me smile but I had tears in my eyes..Ive always wanted to say "Thank you for what you do" But for a year since I lost him..I couldn't I still cant. My Heart hurts seeing the colors,it hurts seeing them in Uniform and it hurts even more when I know none of them are him.

Everyday I wake up feeling like I have a whole in my heart,feeling that a part of me well never ever be whole again and I believe that my heart wont be whole again.

A conference of Soldiers as they stood in line waiting to be seated in my cafe my place of work,I looked around thinking how I want to say those words.."Thank you" but instead I couldnt speak..

I just stood there starring wondering if one of them could be him.. but deep down I knew they couldnt be because in my heart I knew he was in Heaven with my bestie Abby and My grandpa John,and so many other loved ones I have lost in the past.

But as the tears started to run down my face,I recalled how much he wouldnt want me to stand there and cry,how he would tell me that life would one day get better,and that Life one day well be easier for me to walk up to a soldier,A stranger ..but a man or woman fighting for this country and say those words I said to Sky every day.."Thank you,Thank you for what you do and eveything you have done."

So to all my Friends who are soldiers THANK YOU,I hope one day I can look you all in the eye and THANK YOU Personally..So may God Bless you and what you do..THANK YOU. Stay safe and I love you..

*Heather *

If I never get the chance to say it..Here it is before you go Into this War..

About 7 years ago I moved to Las Vegas,Nevada a month and half after I graduated. I remember my last few days like it was yesterday.It was Summer,June 2003, My baby sister had a softball game so we were all at the park. I had seen alot of my friends and family there,Then my Best Guy friend Benjamin,came up to me and asked me if I wanted to go with him to Burger King to get a bite to eat and then we would come back. I told him I was gonna stay here and then for some reason (like most times wed argue ) we got into a fight(don't recall what that was about) I told him if he didn't want to stay and hang with me and he'd rather go drive around town on my last night in Kewanee then go ahead leave..He left, about a half hour later I got a voicemail from my best friend Danielle,my phone hadn't rang it went straight to voice mail and it said Urgent My heart stopped,what happened and where is Ben at..She said Heather I'm by Burger king and Walmart Ben's been in a accident someone ran a red light,and his truck was upside down. I got hysterical and had my mom listen to it,she looked at me..Danielle hadn't said if he was ok or not my heart had stopped beating we had just got in a huge fight and he left angry oh my god was all I could think...I ran to his older sister and told her what I had heard she was the umpire that night at the softball game,she took off running across the field, and I was digging in my purse wondering why I couldn't find my car keys by the time I had found them his sister was there she YELLED HEATHER GET IN NOW.. I ran to her car jumped in and I swear she drove about 90 mph all the way there..Afraid for my own life but afraid of what happened to Benjamin.We got there and there was his upside down Truck,ambulance and a fire truck and a couple cop cars,then there was Ben standing tall like nothing happened..He ran to his sister and hugged her,and then he came to me..I'm so sorry Heather,and I cried..I'm sorry too.
He gave me his class ring that night,it would be a year later I would see him and give him his stuff back. That night made me realize how much I would miss him if he was gone.I thought he felt the same.
A year after living here in Vegas I got a call from him quite a bit. He told me he was going to be a Marnie,I was proud of him and knew it would only bring him Good things. He deserved the best.
A few months later he met a girl who would later become his wife,and I would never hear or see from him again.
But about a week ago I got the news he's going to be going to Afghanistan in May or June of 2010. I cried..I had lost my best guy friend 7 years ago but he's always been there..Now what would happened if he never came back..I knew from past experience losing someone I would never forgive myself for not being the bigger person. I wasn't going to lose another friend and not tell them how sorry I was for losing touch,r how proud I was of them I had let my friendship with Abby fade away into the distance,and then I lost her without being able to make things right again I wasn't going to let that happened with Benjamin. We had been through to much I only stayed away because I felt it was the right thing to do..But now I want him to know how proud of him I am,and after losing Schuyler to this war how important it is to come back safely and remember that he is and well always be a Hero..He is from the class of 2003 and we do have some Hero's I know and Love ...

Schuylers 1 year

February 24,2009

A day that my world turned upside down. ..FOREVER..

Life would never be the same..

I had just talked to him 2 days ago,how is he gone..Why would god take him..Why now he's just to YOUNG,he's only 25.So much life let do..
February 17,2009 Schuyler turned 25 I remember teasing him because he was as old as me now,and we laughed like we did most times. He said he was ready to come home,he wanted to visit me and help me move,he wanted me closer,I wanted the same. I was so ready to give my notice,until the day my world turned upside down.

For the next 24 hours on February 24th,2009 I cried,and Cried some more,not sure Id ever be able to believe everything that had just happened.

I love him,he told me he Loved me..We had been so close over the last 5 years that It was just impossible to know he was going to be gone forever. I went to work that night I found out,dazed and confused I walked in and sat down,my boss asked me what was wrong and I Cried.My food and beverage manager told him what had happened,and he walked me around for a bit trying to see if I could wake up from this nightmare,but I wasn't sleeping it was reality,he was gone and I would never get to see him or feel his loving embrace or listen to him laugh at me,or teasing me for crushing on him(as so many girls did I'm sure) we told each other everything,now I am lost,not sure who to talk to and who to trust,there just wasn't anyone I wanted more then him,,I needed him back.

A year has gone by and it feels like yesterday that my entire world fell apart.

I still wait for him to answer me on Yahoo messenger, I still have his phone number programed in my phone,I still wait for that day for him to say it was all a joke and that he was still here. A part of me knows that he well never come back Ill never get to see that smiling face or have those arms wrap around me again,Ill never see him alive again..Sometimes I know that sometimes I pray to god that it was just a nightmare. But Reality is hes gone and has been for a year..GOD HOW I MISS YOU SCHUYLER PATCH..HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU GOD ONLY KNOWS...

I try to move on daily,I wake up with a huge whole in my heart,where his love and laughter used to be.Alot of people lost a great person February 24,2009..

I know by far I wasn't the only one that lost you that fatal day but I cant help but know that things have and well never be the same without you here with me.

One Year has come and it well soon be just a distant memory.
Though many well never forget that day like myself,we well have it in the back of our minds forever.
I LOVE YOU SCHUYLER always...and forever
Heather N

P.S. You were mentioned and showed your picture on Nancy Grace this month I bet your up there going HOLY SHIT first I get the GOVERNOR at my funeral and then I get my name in the People Magazine now NANCY GRACE ( I can hear u say I ALWAYS KNEW ID BE FAMOUS ONE DAY) lol

I promised you that I would stop dwelling on the past and move on,and I have tried to do so every day but my heart still breaks for the people I've lost in my life..But I promise I'm doing the best I can..

To all the other families that have lost someone to this war,My God Bless you and Look over you..and to the other 3 that died with Sky this fatal day may your families always remember that you well forever be in there hearts and the hearts of the other soldiers and friends you've so sadly left behind..

-Heather-

The Beggining of the Long road back

February Last year,everything in my life seemed unreal.

Just 4 months before on October 19,2008 I had lost my Grandpa John,at the time I did'nt know how to deal,I knew my grandpa John was sick,he had been for years.But my family and I still needed him here on earth.I still needed him,he was the grandpa that spoiled us,the grandpa that teased us and the Grandpa that when we fell would comfort us. He was a AWESOME Grandpa,so when I talked to Schuyler after everything happened that day,he told me Heather..Its ok you have to be strong for him,so Id ask about him and his life,he never said much about the bs that was going on over there,but I knew it was crazy,I knew he wanted to complain too and some days he did, I worked graveyard at the time,so we talked via my cell phone on yahoo messenger and every time my phone buzzed I knew It was him. We talked practically all through the night(as it was day there )He told me about his plans for when going back home,and his future. He hadn't yet figured out but we had a plan.,.A plan that for some reason God decided wasn't in the cards for us.

Schuyler and I were close,I told him so much because he listened as I did for him,he once told me when he was home from the first tour that I was the only one that was his friend and loved him that never asked about killing people over there,and so I told him,Its because I just don't have a reason to know,but if you want to tell me I well listen. I miss seeing his face on the computer screen when id get home,he would always ding me and tell me buzz buzz until it drove me nutty! he loved teasing me. I would complain to him about my life,and how boring it was for someone as young as I am,then he said to me Heather I never told you this because I don't want you to think Ur dad is Hott or anything but you look alot like your dad and more and more you sure do sound like him.I was dumb founded we had went to talking about how boring life was and I was doing the complaing and then he says that I stared at him through the screen and he laughed and said WHAT its true :)

God how I miss that boys crazy sometimes absolutely nutty comments!

Its been almost a year..This month was the month that changed my life,and so many others life's forever.

I had went from talking to Schuyler everyday to,only getting to stare at pictures of the face,and the guy I loved and missed so much.

Today he would of been 26,last year we were teasing each other on how old we were getting,and what we were really doing with our life.I miss those talks and him so very much..Happy Birthday my dear friend,I love you,I miss you..everything about you its unreal how just a year your life can change so much..I LOVE YOU SCHUYLER ALWAYS HAVE ALWAYS WILL...FOREVER

~Heather~

A little bit about me..

My life


I'm 26

I have two amazing parents and a Wonderful little sister, I wouldn't trade them for anything in this world.

I'm very very close to my Grandma Betty

(and was close with my grandpa john that passed away a year ago Oct.19th)

Ive never really Traveled but when I was 4 my dad and mom took me to Phoenix AZ and Las Vegas NV. Don't recall that vacation..But I'm sure it was a blast lol!
I want to travel I know Id love it, but when I do get to travel I go home..Home to my family and my friends Ive left behind.


I moved out to Las Vegas because my Uncle needed me,then I just started my life from there..there are many days I regret it,and one day ill make it closer to home just got to have the money first,life as adult just isn't cheap :) why did I ever want to grow up?


In the past 6 years Ive went to Culinary College,Graduated from Culinary School(with a associates degree in Culinary arts)got a Culinary Job and got my own apt. Also went from being a cook,to lead line cook,to Sous Chef..all in 5 years.
I've lost alot of people in the last 6 years that not a day goes by I cant help but wonder why them..why there turn...

But Ive also learned that you cant dwell on the past.

Since October 19,2008 Ive been pretty much a emotional basket case.In a span of 4 months since 10-19-08 I lost 2 of the most important people in my life. I didn't know how to deal so I dug deep into my job and avoided anything that could make my life any worse.


Since then Ive pulled myself out of depression on with a life I so desperately needed.
I'm 26 and most days after a hard day at my job I feel 96..

I'm a hard worker,I'm spoiled,Everything I have I work for.
I don't need anyone to take care of me,I'm set in my ways and sometimes I realize that's not a good thing but taking care of myself is all I can and the only one I can depend on.

Some even say I'm stubborn.I'm very picky, I do things my way. Some even say that I'm set in my ways and I may never find someone that can ever put up with me just being ME...

When I was in High school I had 6 best friends all girls and then I had two of the BEST Guy friends a girl could ever ask for one Ive known since 2nd grade Andy E. and the other I would soon meet and become the best of friends with..Benjamin, him and I were the best of friends,we talked about everything he was my go to guy,. Him and his family met the world to me,he and I fought,and then a moment later we were back to being the best of friends.When I left




7 years ago I moved to Las Vegas..

7 years ago I said goodbye to all my friends including Benjamin,and then 7 years ago I was asked not to talk to my best guy friend Benjamin anymore,and since then we haven't..but today I found out that in May or June he well be heading off to Afghanistan a place Ive found that scares the HELL out of me,one because I've been through the losing someone I cared about and I also see what it happens to people that get that lucky chance to come back to the States and how much life over there gets to them once there back..I'm scared for him and not sure how to deal with this..Its been 7 years since Ive seen him,talked to him.BE SAFE MARINE,even though 7 years have past us by & were both in different places in are lives,You'll always be my Best Guy Friend,You'll always mean alot to me,and always be a part of my past.There well never be a person who looked into my eyes and saw my heart,You were always there and I have missed you in 7 years,I pray for your safe return home to your Family.& I hope one day I'll see you again..

Heather

Today I saw this group of soldiers every where I looked ..Men and Woman in uniforms.(staying at the place I work)
From a far I pretend it was your face..


Up close my eyes were watery,and tears soon fell down.




I wanted to go up to them and say thank you,but I couldn't get the guts..These men and woman leave there families and friends and there homes to fight this war. Some die for are safety,and the safety of there brothers and sisters in arms.

Today I looked at this crowd and thought I saw your face,and then you would soon run up to me and yell surprise I'm in Vegas! Then Hug me and tell me you've missed me.

But as a single tear fell from my eye I knew it wasn't true..
I was always so proud of you,and I'm so proud of all my other friends in Military.But I'm afraid to lose anyone else..

February 24, is less then a month away.. Seeing the soldiers today reminded me that its been almost a year..Almost a year we lost someone as special as you,We lost R HOMETOWN HERO.

Not a day goes by I don't hear a song and think Schuyler would love this,or a song that just plain old reminds me of you. We always talked and I miss that. I know I'm not the only one..

I love you Schuyler ALWAYS have ALWAYS will..never forgotten

Changes..

When you think things are getting better,Life throws you a curve ball.
I woke up this morning and all I could think of is how things have changed,how much Ive changed.
Im 26 now,and in the past 6 years Ive lost my best friend(my child hood friend)Abby Dana,Ive lost my Grandpa John,and a man I loved so much,who was a great Soldier as well Sgt.Schuyler Patch.





The other day I was talking with My grandma Carol she told me that Grandpa Don(the only grandpa I have left) was going into a heart surgery, he would then have 6 bipasses and a valve to his heart fixed,since then he made it through the surgiers but in the last few days he has been my grandpa..Stubborn. He wont listen to the docters or nurses and because of that he is still in ICU.
Im glad that he is getting better just wish it was going faster so I wouldnt be so worried about him...I love you Grandpa Don.


I wanted this new year(2010) to be a GREAT year,but my past keeps comming back. Even though things have really changed for me since 2003,with the whole moving to vegas and losing the people I have loved,I always thought one day Id get back there..Id get back to me..The happy girl who smiled through everything in life. I never thought that after April 22,2004,happened because that is when everything went down hill,I lost some of the most important people in my life after that..


I try really hard not to dwell on all the bad stuff thats happened since then,I try my best to live the life I know they would want me to.But some days hurt more then others.

Then I think of all the good things that have happened since then, the Birth's of my best friends babies,who I love as if they were my neices &nephews...(there not related by blood but my best friends r close to me as my own sister)(so there related lol)

I have been single for about 4 years,and Im one of those people who is very set in her ways,my past relationships have swept me off my feet,and kept me wanting him to come back,and when he would I didnt know how to let go,but this new year I promised myself&my heart that It would finnally be over.And thus far Ive done well.

I just hope the rest of 2010 is better then the last 2 years...Thanks for Reading!